First off let’s just see what this is all about. You remember how romantic you guys were when you were just boy and girl friend. Remember how free it was. Going out on the sly and enjoying every moment. Getting caught in the “act”. Romantic messages and all that.

Then you guys decide to marry and the wedding goes well and stuff. After the marriage things turn slowly. You seem to understand the person who you were with is so different. Sometime they don’t even understand what’s happening.

How can this be? have they had a different idea? anyone else is trying to put the moves on my guy/girl?

I bet a lot of people have this problem. Let me just put it in a simple way.

You have opened your laptop and you got SONGS. You friend was generous to give you 90% of his collection. We are talking about 40 hours of songs. So you browse through the songs. You select the songs you like and omit the songs you don’t want. This is the girlfriend/boyfriend stage. Either person will accept what they like and reject what they don’t.

Then you go to the synching part. The day you get married. So you hook up the laptop to your potable device and starts synching.

Now you got the same songs from the laptop to the device. What you don’t know is the the songs you may have synched could be a version you don’t like. The best song you love maybe corrupt and you cannot play it. Maybe the song format is not compatible with the player. etc. This is when after the first night with your wife you see she is different. She has her own things to do. She seems to not understand things sometimes. etc.

So when we talk in terms of Songs what would a person do?

He will first see the situation and Understand the problem. If the song is corrupt was there a working one on the laptop? Where can he re-download it from? Is the downloading site TRUSTABLE? What converter can I use? Can I install a compatible player on the device? etc.So after a time he finds the solutions and works them out and comes on top of it all.

With relevance to life what would a person do?

He will UNDERSTAND the situation and with TRUST he will work things out.

So let me give a small scenario on what I mean.

After marriage my wife is like my mom. She tells me to keep the floor clean and not to scatter the clothes on the ground. That I should wash my clothes, WTF is happening.

If you have an awesome wife she will be understanding and help you change to a better person. I understood that if I mess the place it will look bad on both of us. Why wait till the last moment to clear the mess? Why wail till someone comes into the room and you are shifting clothes here and there? Also it is a fact that this will probably go to your children. If you are messy the children will be messy too. By then if you try to fix them they will look you in the face and say “PRACTICE WHAT YOU PREACH”. Then you have to look elsewhere.

So the wife may not always be right if you see that it is not right. learn to accept what she told then when she’s calm correct her. Also one main thing, never keep thing to tell later. Always if there is something tell her and give all the information. She needs to know what happens because you both are a part of each other. If there is a fight end it. You give in and give her a hug. Come to a conclusion. LEARN TO ACCEPT YOUR MISTAKES. 🙂 I am not shouting just highlighting.

Now what most people do is “Let’s change the device” and buys a different one. Which is where you go in for a divorce and marry again. Never do that.

Remember that if your marriage is getting stale/Lame you lack intimacy. So just for a moment think a bit. This women who I am going out with now and having fun is because we are intimate. Once I marry her it will be the same so I need to change. From then you stop cheating and go to your wife. Take time to gaze at her and look at how she has changed. Understand what she has been going through to keep you happy. Do small things like lifting her. Dancing to no music. gentle pecks of kisses. etc.

If you run out of ideas just google. Google has so many things that can help make your life sparkle again.

So basically this is one sided. From a guy PoV. So girls are also like that learn to accept your mistakes and work with hubby for a better life.

Budusaranai!

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